Nick Kemp - Treating Jealousy
 When I first set up in private practice I was surprised at just how
many people came to see me with jealousy issues. This trend has remained
constant over the years and I generally see people every month with jealousy
issues. Jealousy can be hugely disruptive in relationships and when clients
first contact me for assistance it’s often at the point when a relationship
is in some real trouble…
There can of course be genuine reasons for jealousy, but when someone
experiences jealousy for no apparent reason, this then suggests that their
imagination might be spiralling out of control.
A jealous person can find themselves in a constant "loop" of imagining their
partner with somebody else. This "loop" can then consume the jealous person's
thoughts to the extent that they find it hard to think of anything else at all.
Sometimes a client may additionally make ongoing unhelpful suggestions to themselves
as well as or instead of "picturing problems", setting up this sequence of negative
thoughts. The NLP, Hypnosis and Provocative Therapy toolkits are excellent in dealing
with this condition and breaking this looping behavioural process.
Jealous thoughts can manifest in a variety of ways from anxiety and panic, to
anger when a partner simply looks at another person. Maintaining these patterns
of unhelpful behaviour can also be exhausting for the jealous person, to the extent
that they not only become emotionally stressed, but in some instances physically
unwell. Jealousy can cause a person to be withdrawn and moody, also resulting in
anger or even fury. Afterwards it's normal for a person to feel remorse, and
frustration with themselves, with an inability to control thoughts and feelings,
producing anxious and depressed states of mind.
I have had excellent success resolving these jealous patterns with clients and
this usually takes one to two sessions to fully resolve. The key to successfully
treating jealousy is not through endless analysis about "why" a person may have
these behavioural patterns, but rather "how" to break out of the unhelpful loop
to create new found freedom.
"Thank you for Friday I did feel a lot better when I came out!"
Vicky S (treated for jealousy)
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